A kiss is NOT just a kiss, and you must remember this. Since our first
kiss back at high school, in our prom night or kissing under the mistletoe,
or even after the “I do” at our wedding, the kiss is ever so present
in our adulthood. It’s also an important part in the development of
our sexuality, being actually our first sexual contact, opening doors
for many others. Sometimes the kiss is the actual factor that sets which
course the relationship will take, if it’s going to be a one nightstand
or move on to another level.
Kissing isn’t simply sticking your tongue all the way down your partner’s
throat, but to know when and how you’re supposed to start kissing,
how to set the right mood and rhythm. It’s a question of chemistry.
You should control over kissing; otherwise it’ll become a battle of
tongues. As everything in sexuality, there’s no perfect recipe. However,
here goes some tips that may be helpful in finding your way to improve
your kissing skills.
Forget about focusing just on your mouth... a good kiss is not just
a fluid exchange and involves not only lips and tongue but also your
entire mouth, teeth, your hands and your entire body as everything
referring to sexuality.
Make eye contact – get intimacy by making deep eye contact before
the actual kiss starts. It gives away your interest in someone. Of
course, it’s also a question of moment, because if things start to
get too wild fast, you’re not gonna change the mood by stopping just
to look into your partners eyes.
Mouth to mouth – that’s the most obvious part of the kiss, but also
the element where people are usually unsure whether they’re doing
right. Being soft with your lips is essential to perform a good kiss.
A certain pressure is required, even to give a kiss the right “passion”
feeling, but if you’re tense, this pressure may turn unwelcome from
your partner. Try to draw the right spot between gentleness and lust.
The slip of the tongue – the trick here is control. Trying to show
the length of your tongue may be disgusting, and it’s not exciting
at all, and you better off to show how many things your tongue could
perform (calm down, we’re still talking about kissing). Try and gently
lick your partners’ lips and then, use your tongue to slowly massage
your partners’ tongue and inner mouth making a soft flicking motion.
Since the tongue is one of the most flexible and powerful muscles
in our body, there are plenty of movements you could try on. Of course,
all that tongue/lips action takes us to the next important tip, which
Saliva – a good kiss is supposedly wet, but one of the most heard
complaints of both men and women refers to partners who actually make
them choke in their kisses. There’s no other way to avoid this but
practice. Learn how to control your body and your breathing, so you’ll
be able to kiss for hours and hours without making your partner uncomfortable.
Don’t forget the rest – your entire body needs to be involved in
a real good kiss. Control the pace of your kiss by moving your head
to caress your partners’ hair, using your hands for other things while
you’re kissing. It doesn’t mean necessarily naughty things. Ok, let’s
face it, most people want to get on with the naughty stuff, even
if that’s your aim, caress during kissing will increase your partners’
desire, perhaps that’s the way.
As you’ve probably noticed, as everything related to sexuality, a
good kiss is about finding the right balance between things. Use your
instinct to find out what your partner likes, and remember that people
usually give out what they want to receive, so pay attention to the
way your partner kisses you. Try to develop your own kiss-style and
get ready to send shivers down your partners’ spine.