Feminine orgasm has always been an interesting and fascinating subject.
Unlike the masculine orgasm, visible by the ejaculation of semen, the
feminine orgasm lacks of the evident signals that can prove the reach
of orgasm. Perhaps, it is why feminine orgasm has been so mysterious
for both men and women.
Well, we can start saying that a similar pattern for feminine orgasm
does not exist.
Different women experience distinct sensations, intensity and duration.
Then, it is difficult to fully describe the feminine orgasm. Nevertheless,
we can describe in 4 stages the cycle of Sexual Answer of a woman,
which shows what happens when a woman is excited during any sexual
act, or during masturbation or intercourse. These 4 stages have been
denominated as excitation, plateau, orgasm and resolution.
It is important to mention that these stages do not have a noticeable
beginning or end, but it happens like a continuous process during
the sexual answer. And in women, this cycle delays generally about
15 minutes, unlike men who usually reaches orgasm between 3 and 5
minutes. Therefore many women do not succeed in reaching orgasm.
First stage, denominated excitation, can last only minutes or several
hours after initiated the erotic stimulation. Generally, this phase
begins 10 to 30 seconds after stimulation initiates. The woman physically
experiences the lubrication, expansion and growth of vagina, a swelling
of greater and smaller lips of vagina, clitoris and breasts. In addition,
there is an acceleration of heartbeats, arterial pressure and breathing.
On second phase, denominated plateau, the changes experienced in the
excitation stage are accentuated. The vaginal lips are thickened and
a slightly change of color occurs, in addition, the vaginal walls
gets full of blood and the vaginal orifice grows. The clitoris too
gets filled with blood and becomes tumid. Like on the first stage,
the heartbeats and pulse keep on accelerating. In addition, the muscles
of the thighs, hips, hands and rumps are tightened. In this phase,
a reddening of skin can take place, what generally occurs in stomach,
chests, shoulders or face.
Third phase, the orgasm itself, is the climax stage of the cycle and
generally is the shortest stage, lasting only seconds. In this stage,
a woman experiences an involuntary muscular series of contractions
in the vagina, uterus and/or rectum, which are very pleasurable. The
number and duration of these contractions depends on each woman.
In this stage, the speed of breathing, pulse and arterial pressure
achieve maximum acceleration. Muscular tension also arrives at its
higher point, usually accompanied by muscular twitches in hands and
The fourth phase, the resolution is characterized by the return to
the rest state. This phase can last from 5 up to 60 minutes. In this
phase, uterus and clitoris return to their normal positions, a slackening
of the muscles takes place, a reddening of skin and the swelling of
certain parts disappears. During, this phase, some women can respond
right after an additional stimulation of orgasm, unlike the man.
It is important to mention that orgasm in a woman, is a behavior that
is learned and not something that you born knowing. To obtain the
first orgasm is a process, which requires practice and much patience.
Unlike men, who tend to masturbate themselves from very young, women
begin to experience their sexuality much later. In many cases, this
turns more difficult the obtainment of orgasm.
In fact, it is also important to remember that many women in their
majority need to be directly stimulated at the clitoris and then being
able to reach orgasm. That is to say, only penetration isn't enough
to the obtainment of a woman's orgasm. In many cases, during the vaginal
penetration, the clitoris does not receive sufficient stimulation.
For that reason is necessary to resort to a manual, oral stimulation
or other positions that provide direct and consistent stimulation
to the clitoris.
Finally, the vagina's lubrication is important to women achieve orgasm,
as it is the clitoris stimulation. A vagina that is not lubricated
enough results in a painful penetration, blocking the fulfillment
of pleasure, and therefore, halting women from reaching orgasm. Because
of this, it is so important that a woman receives sufficient erotic
stimulus during the excitation phase, previous to the penetration,
to being able to lubricate the vagina and obtain an expansion and
growth necessary to receive a penis. A rule of thumb to follow is
that the woman dictates when penetration should take place. That way,
she ensures readiness to lodge in a penis.
The secret to obtain great pleasure out of a sexual relation is the
knowledge of what happens in our body, equally in your pair and much