The capacity to rapport sexually with the opposite
sex and love someone of this sex, develops in different stages of
adolescence. In puberty, or shortly thereafter, interest for sex increases
at fast rate, likewise masturbation increasingly incidence.
Despite being usually afraid, most people, of both sexes,
commence to have experiences with the opposite sex already in adolescence.
Progress tends to be slow for their vast majority and it’s reached
alongside various partners. Thus, a girl may kiss a thirteen-year-old
boy for the first time and afterwards, gradually, gear into motion
up until reaching a full-blown sexual relationship around the age
of eighteen or nineteen.
In the case of boys that is highly variable. For the
boys, in this phase mostly, any person willing and available serves.
Their best interests being towards sex itself other than relationship,
whereas romantic aspects of sex attract girls. Obviously, such conditions
are predispositions culturally instilled.
Although our apprentice in lovemaking begins practically
at birth, the capacity to love someone of the opposite sex blossoms
later on. It is when the sentiment of loving someone spellbinds,
who is sexually preferred by others as well. Such sentiment only
emerges at the end of adolescence or shortly thereafter. Choices made
before this timeframe, no matter how the two of them believe to be
in love, are bound to be non-everlasting.
Certain people never come to develop the capacity for
loving someone thoroughly; others however are incapable of considering
the loved one as a potential sex partner as well.
Therefore, much as the development of sexual capability
as the capacity for loving may not work out in the first place. Nevertheless,
when everything works out, the possibility to express both aspects
to someone of the opposite sex becomes plausible.
When that happens, the individual is in love only for
the sake of it, neither carries on having sexual relations simply
because that is such a relief for one’s sexual urges. The very core
of choice making grounded on personality traits and the capacity
to understanding and communicating with the partner.
There is further probability of striking balance in
sexual relationship in cases that personalities and cultural background
being similar. So, for most people, foundations for a balanced act
between a man and a woman lie in friendship. So then, they will stand
a chance to express their feelings in lovemaking and therefore accept
it, as well as in relationship sexually orientated.
Once men and women, in manners probably innate, possess
complementary virtues and not conflicting, they can cooperate if well
thought after, given mutual support to each other. However possible
it may seems to disagree with this standpoint, seemingly that such
is ideal a context in order to a man and a woman seize the opportunity
to express themselves, reaching mutual satisfaction, and certain meaningful
to life. That, for the vast majority, too, includes upbringing and
education of kids.
By Jonatas Dornelles
Anthropologist |
