As its name indicates, anal sex consists of the introduction of the
penis in the anus, as much in the heterosexual relations, as in the
homosexuals. It used to be called " sodomy "; (word derived from Sodom,
mythical city that, next to Gomorra, according to the Bible, was destroyed
by Jehovah due to its sexual immorality. The reference to Sodom appears
bound to literary works like "The 120 days of Sodom" of the Marquis
de Sade that was taken to the screen by Pier Paolo Pasolini). Anal
sex was considered "against nature" once, by religious tradition,
the only sex considered natural was with reproductive aims. Anything
different than that was considered sinful; for example they used to
say that the pacts with the demon were sealed with anal sex or with
a kiss in the ass. Almost the same happens with masturbation. Calls
the attention that different countries attributed to their neighbors
this practice as if it was something for alien and strange people:
French call it the "English vice" and English call it "French vice",
the Arabs of the "Persian vice" and vice versa. In many situations
this practice was used to preserve - hypocritically the virginity
and to avoid undesired pregnancies. In addition to Marquis de Sade,
many authors like Bocaccio, Chaucer, Petronio or Rabelais have described
this kind of practice in their work. Today it's neither accepted the
unnatural term, or the "against nature" for the anal penetration (with
finger or penis); it is viewed as an erotic game or sexual variant.
The anal penetration doesn't appear very often as a heterosexual
practice, even though some people do it during the menstruation period.
However, it seems to be common sexual practice among primitive cultures. In some societies of Papua New Guinea
it constituted an obligation for the young people as part of the rites
of puberty, they believe that they will not grow as they should if
they don't receive semen of older men.
Approximately 40% of the heterosexual couples have tried it at least
once. The anus, like the vagina, has sensitive nervous endings. Men
as much as the heterosexual women, even if sometimes they think that
this indicates a homosexual tendency, often enjoy some type of anal
massage. Some men and women consider that the practice of the anal
sex is something adventurous and amused, whereas others perceive it
as something dirty, perverse and painful. This sexual practice requires
great doses of mutual confidence, lubrication, capacity of communication
and patience on the part of the man, who cannot move as energetically
as he would do it during the vaginal sex because the risk of damaging
the very delicate skin. The anal sex is an activity of high risk due
to the HIV infection. The physical and psychological submission that
entails this practice has for many men and women great attractiveness
as an occasional alternative to the vaginal sex. In fact, the woman
would have to control the rate and the depth of the penetration. As
it so happens in any sexual practice, nobody should feel pushed to
practice anal sex only because the partner requests it. Sex to be
pleasant has always to be choosed. The rectum is not designed for
sex practice and it cannot bear sudden sexual intercourse without
suffering damages. Even if both parties reach orgasm, sex is a special
event. With a little creativity, both ends can be satisfied.
When you decide to have anal sex you should take in to account that:
- As we are talking about a muscular sphincter, it tends to offer
resistance, so it needs to be properly relaxed. Unlike the vagina,
it doesn't lubricate itself; cream or a nonirritating lubricant
gel should be used for that, so much as on the penis or finger
as in the anus.
- Make the penetration carefully and smoothly, gradually (sometimes
is better to expand it first with a finger before introducing the
penis). Pull it out if your partner complains of intense pain that
she/he doesn't bear or if there is strong resistance, or even if
she/he does not seem to enjoy it.
- Use a condom, it's very important, since
the rectal mucous is a virus and bacteria route of entrance.
- Never make a vaginal penetration after the anal, since the danger
to contaminate the vagina with bacterial flora of the rectum, and
then the penis would take it itself; a way to do it is wear another
or, in case of not using it, clean up very careful before continuing.
- Never penetrate without the other person consent. Sometimes there
are resistance or refusals in doing so because of pain, others by
moral or religious faith, or simply isn't pleasant.
- One of the most uncomfortable things about anal
sex, can be the presence of fecal matter when taking the
penis out. Some homosexual patients refer that they use enemas to
clean the zone, but this method is seldom used
To many heterosexual couples anal sex can be an alternative that
produces great erotic and sexual satisfactions. However, mainly because
it is a "taboo", there are many questions and some precautions that
it demands. To know them is never too much. The opinions about anal
sex are many and varied, and even contradictory. Not everybody accept
(mainly for ethical and religious reasons) that this type of relation
is "normal" in a heterosexual couple. one thing is for sure that
many people perceive in the anal sex a way like any other to enjoy
sex, an equivalent to the oral sex or the vaginal sex. Not, the climate
of concealment, the pressure of the prejudices and the fact that the
subject has been considered a taboo have caused that in whatever anal
sex, everything is questions, doubts and silence. To look for
response to them is the best way to end the unnecessary risks and
problems derived from ignorance. Anal sex also demands its own precautions.
The Condom use is the most popular safety measure. Although, its
use is extended to the relations of vaginal sex
(everybody knows the risks that imply not to use it, AIDS and sexually
transmitted diseases), doesn't happen the same with anal sex. It's
also necessary to use Condoms for AIDS prevention: since the HIV is
easily transmitted by a zone that lacks natural lubrication and is
more prone to tears and bleeding injuries that, when mixing itself
with semen infected contribute to expand the disease. It's also recommendable
to add other precautions that should never seem unnecessary.
Most important: after practicing anal sex, never have vaginal sex
straight away. It requires taking hygiene procedures, such as the
penis wash (or the finger if it has also taken part in the penetration).
Also it is necessary to change the preservative then, since in the
anus there are bacteria that, if in there don't cause problems but
can trigger it in the vagina. on the other hand, should be considered
as a necessity measurement that penetration starts slowly and tenderly
and that the penetrated person needs to be very excited either in
a heterosexual relation as in a homosexual one. If the penetrated
person is not excited enough, mainly in the anal sphincter, it can
turn out painful and annoying as well as causing detrimental tears
and injures. For this reason, an artificial lubricant (with water
based, since petroleum jelly and oils can harm the condom's latex)
can facilitate the penetration that, by itself, isn't so simple. If
in addition the pair stimulates the zone manually thus to expand to
the anal sphincter, this practice does not have reason to be painful.
one last precaution, already repeated surely, of insurance by its
importance, is the HYGIENE. It is evident that everything is pleasant
and for pleasant to be the penetrated person should have evacuated
before so that the last part of the colon is as clean as possible
and there are not difficulties for the penetration. Finally, a concentrated
wash in the zone is never too much.
Alternative techniques in vaginal Penetration from behind, "dog style".
The penetration from the back is an alternative to the anal sex, even
when you introduce the penis in the vagina. The angle of penetration
and the visual perspective from the back makes it seems as tough you
experienced differently to the other sex positions,
fantasizing you can emulate an anal penetration. It's also interesting
and at the same time funny to talk about anal penetration without
doing it, so both can think about their desires about it. While she
stimulates with the hand and tells the most exiting sexual
fantasy that him can imagine or they have read in a book or
a magazine. To say obscene expressions on a taboo subject is as good
as practice it. They can prove. Practice the anal massage. For both
sexes. Put a latex glove and lubricate the zone well. Tickle the edge
of the anus. She gives it back to his with the finger. When his partner
is ready, he introduces a finger slowly (with the affluent nail cut).
While doing that his partner contracts the anal muscle around his
finger, inhaling while she or he does it. As variant, he shakes his
finger smoothly while his pair contracts and relaxes annals muscles.