In contrast to information currently readily available
on risks of sexually acquired infection during sexual intercourse,
condom wearing seemingly repelled by the vast majority of men. Such
rejection linked to ideas and ideals of masculinity that relate strength,
immunity and sexuality, on which point poise men to regard preservatives
as unnecessary accessory.
Since early age, are the boys taught to be stronger
than the girls, to be macho-oriented, to take risks, hence as part
of their nature.
Thus, so learning that they should lead highly active
sexual lives, whereas women do not bear the same right. though, having
all but forgotten there was once upon a split second of humanity,
that today this school of thought no longer exists. Both men and women
are strong, therefore allowed to take risks and keep different partners
during their lives.
The man's sexual education, likewise his education
towards other aspects of his life, still grounded on values of courage
, strength, endurance, health, immunity, stamina, omnibus, seed, penis
size, degree of risk taking, heroism, domination, power, capacity,
action versus prevention or planning, be detached, non-reticent, careless.
What in this context is not inserted being considered feminine namely
health and body care, yet whether wearing condoms makes part of more
intimate relation of the man with his body, his health and even with
his life.
Nowadays, female sexual behavior pursues different
avenues. Hence, a woman throughout life have more than one single
partner, being into casual sex, so, caretaking is every one's responsibility,
not to be left up to the partner.
That is what puts condoms on the map, not just women,
but for men as well. It is not possible to tell whether the partner
carries the HIV virus or any sexually infectious disease. All that
can be done is to prevent sexually infectious diseases, AIDS inclusive,
by wearing condoms in each and every sexual relation, even within
marriage.
What in principle may seem exaggerate, it's actually
a matter of care taken of oneself and respect with the partner. Arguably,
even more so given the increasingly number of loyal wives catching
some sexually infectious disease from steady partners.
In a nutshell, despite the threat of constant and
clear danger, most men hold it in low regards, prefer denying its
very existence to taking prevention, allegedly, condoms interfere
in sex-linked sensations, hurt, mess with foreplay and even wearing
aesthetically speaking is gross.
All boils down to the male-orientated all-powerful
stance towards danger, a line of perception that certain things only
happen to others, which is not true. It's conceded that sexually infectious
diseases and AIDS chose no target.
Much as women so need men to take much needed care
when it comes to sex and condoms might as well play role-model in
the sex game with no loss in pleasure feeling. Seeking alternatives
to put it sensually in or bring into play as sex game are manners
to introducing it to the relation and no pleasure loss.
With so much at stake, taken chances on sexually
infectious diseases do not justify excuses men employ most.
Let's not forget, too, that sex-linked climax is
infinitely connected to what we feel and think at intercourse. Whether
physically or psychologically. Thus, it hinges not on whether wearing
condoms, so deeply linked to the way we perceive it rather than wearing
itself.
Though, there could be thought, to get to grips with
wearing condoms is a streak of sexual maturity, once pleasure keeps
going on, but also prevention takes place.
Not a single hint of sexual pleasure can beat looking
after oneself, knowingly being the body and mind healthy, and be able
to lay out plans for the future.
Nothing can be better than leading a healthy living,
with no drug dependency and liable to give and take love, fearing
no one hurt.
Anne
Griza
Psychologist |
