Sex is better than love, some would say. Perhaps, something of a woman's
mind other than men. Once, it's quite straightforward to part sex from
love as far as men's sexuality concerns.
Currently, the most popular relations are those of all out sex and
no compromising. Individuality and freedom of choice became as important
or even more than choosing someone with selectivity towards more reasonable
living. There's been a great deal of self-preservation, not taking
chances in living with emotionally overburden types. An individual
isn't asked to show a great deal of his emotional, way of doing things,
which is another part. The most important in a relation is sex, whereupon
no strings would come attached. Both genders grown a lot smart in
letting emotional luggage of others and the likes being dumped in
their privacies. People only let themselves go when sexual urges surge,
as sexual desire afloat and intention is only just given and taken
sexual pleasure, to live up a grateful moment, enjoying what feels
right at the moment with no impositions whatsoever.
I reckon that detached sex only for the sake of it has its value,
but also convey that this kind of behavior can't make up as motto
in life. As not machines but sexually charged beings an as such, bound
to have feelings, hankers and needs, which might be disguised in such
relationships despite repercussions at some point. Sex could be just
an expression of biological necessity. It would be a lot easier to
be dealt with, otherwise, sex also express many other necessities,
not only physical but also emotional and behavioral in the same lot.
Before and after sex would be at stake, to namely a few; caress exchange,
intimacy and kissing, hugging, and even concerns for the sake of sex
of the other half. It's such unique moment, likely to produce side-effects
and sensations given so lack of bounds may induce emptiness if not
A human being doesn't come to this world to live alone for the sake
of one off sex delight and return to limbo afterwards. Thus, this
happens to those who seek this kind of relation.
Perhaps, sex with no strings attached should be the life optional
of someone at a particular moment.
Nevertheless, whichever reason of such decision it call for further
attention for sex with no emotional rapport still involves two people
and the other person involved might be so keen. This very person liable
of sexual fantasies and goals and therefore emotion takes its toll
once again. At which point, hang-up-triggered sadness may ensue.
A sexual intercourse encompasses more than mundane physical communion,
it's synonym of abnegation, of well sought after sexual heightening,
of emotional comfort and peace of mind.
The delights of sex can provide thought provoking spells of well
being for both the body and soul.
If asked whether sex should compromise or should sex detach of hang
ups, go for uncompromised sex. It might be rather risky but the likelihood
of well being attainable is unbeatable.
Sommer da Costa
Psychologist and Sexologist