When the bottom line means sex, no matter how much access to information might be given through literature, health professionals, talks amongst peers or family members. These days, perceptively, some folks end up by getting in conflict over sex concerns, more precisely with the level of sexual satisfaction of their lifestyles.
One thing is for sure…on a given relationship there’s no way to tell whether concerns over sexuality would be harbored or cooked up by only one member of the duo. So remarked I because the problem becomes part of the two of them since the very problem which affects one would wind up affecting the other, leading them into sprees of sexual inadequacy.
Therefore dysfunctions as of the system and ejaculation, sex drive, post-menstrual syndrome, amidst others may trigger fallouts or hiccups of personal and /or relationship order. And it too, also backlash is true, coming to affect our sexual satisfaction directly.
If only one person happens to feel sexually fulfilled, it does not necessarily mean that the other would share the same feelings, which wind up by all means interfering in the couple’s sexual satisfaction altogether.
Moreover, scenes in which two depleted bodies covered in sweat shortly thereafter the biggest and most remarkable orgasm of them all would end up by populating most folks’ imagination, as seen in cinemas or TV programs thereof.
Let’s get real, it’s hardly ever possible to reach that all out orgasm presented on the big screen, at least in respects to everyday sexual rapport of us ordinary people and so perhaps it come to push the envelope of one of the major sexual complications that could a sexual relation confront ever.
Most relationships bear to begin with such a highly erotic charge. There could be said that libido, willingness and sex drive between partners would be at peak condition. Time itself takes heed to wear off such erotic antics, which comes as no surprise as frequently touted in both couple’s and individual’s therapy.
Actually, in detriment of the rat-race, sex gets pigeon-holed even though people seemingly at their best in order to achieve otherwise. Whenever that ensues, rendering both sexual satisfaction and realization so-impaired, some tend to settle down along with it whereas others begin to show signs of distress and even seek some sort of escape-goat and so offload on.
Prior to take so much on board or offload the burden on others to sought after a way seems needed in order to come to terms with own pleasure patterns. So what then? Try and answer…with your very own words, what would be missing for sex to become satisfactory again? How is the rapport with the other? What is your sentiment like towards the other? What the other would in turn feel for you? How both of you perceive a relationship/sexual routine as far as the couple is concerned? What could be changed so as to improve the couple’s relationship and sexual routine? How could this routine work out in your and the beloved-one’s best interest? How could both partners get sexual performance improved?
To assign and get on top of such qualms and others pertaining to this business is a way forward for the one who devises a boosted sexual rapport.
By Kelly Cristine Barbosa Cherulli
Psychologist and Sexologist