Sexual activity divided in three phases, namely, sex linked desire, sexual arousal and orgasm. But chosen to be approached
in this article is sex-linked desire. What sex-linked desire is
all about, how it takes place, whose factors infer, and all that pertaining
to sexual hankers spilled in here.
Sexual desire is bound to be compared to the sensation
of appetite, that extra something that propel us towards sexual congress,
or even render us more receptive towards such encounter.
Knowingly, within sexual desire, lies a large context
of lived up experiences of life included, essential factors, whose order are
biological, psychological and social factors of each human being, always acting
in continuous interaction.
Sexual desire is a phenomenon exclusively subjective,
which encompasses contribution of several aspects, like, sexual fantasies,
erotic dreams, acquaintance to sexual activity, and the act of masturbation,
erogenous sensations, and partner's receptivity, amongst others.
Having said that, factors diversify with regard to strength
and intensity, depending on the moment, emotional and physical, that someone
is living in.
Within sexual desire, lies disposition for sexual activity, which inserts three basic attitudes, as follows. Motivation, impulse
and sexual activity.
Let's debrief to get on top of it.
Motivation otherwise known as sexual aspiration perceived
likewise that gesture, that initiative towards approaching someone, bearing
sexual interests and intents. And yet, whoever knows how to accept a
pass or sexual proposal of someone. In these cases, the person involved,
the situation itself and the circumstances is what propel such motivation. Experiences
solely emotional, behavioral, which involve sensations and hankers, whether
in bigger or smaller degree, which might or not be taken on board towards the
second attitude, the sexual impulse that is.
Sexual impulse felt as sexually inducing experience.
This process gears into action stemming from ongoing neural bundle. It is identifiable
as turn on, and likewise motivation, strength and intensity vary from person
In both men and women, traits of impulse will manifest, for
instance, increasingly genital sensibility as well as sex urges in detriment
to a string of aspects that favor sexual motivation.
There is however, negative aspects that might interfere in
such impulse, which might as well be the case of holding the partner at low
regards, whereupon by countless reasons, such as upset, resentments, deception,
may spark off frustrations and even loss of interest and sexual de-motivation.
In women, being motivation and sexual impulse deeply
connected to cultural factors, like moral, religion, emotional stability, given
the woman's role in modern-day society still.
Sexual arousal, and from this point on the body begins
to gear up to the sex act. In this phase, men and women undergo certain
bodily alterations, an entirely physiological phase.
In men, arousal provides penile erection, which might come
followed by urethral secretion, as well as increase in the heart and breathing
In women, vaginal enlargement and moistening that enhance sexual intercourse. On top of that, there is clitoral intumescency that turns rather
touch-sensitive, yielding ultimate sex-linked pleasure when stroked.
Absolutely, desire might entail flaws, so much so, that it
can be less intense or absent altogether, nevertheless, that calls for thorough
relevance and care, as it might signify that something is hampering the expression
By Adriana Sommer da Costa
Psychologist and Sexologist