If rather getting laid even if partner says no means
yeas or instead, maybe the one all fired up is the other despite turned
down sexual approaches. Maybe you reckoned that sex by three times
a week should do the trick, but though, your partner thinks otherwise.
Most often stricken by the couple is mutual agreement
then given a try even if the pace of their sex act would suit only
one of them, whoever gets left beside oneself with lust. The bottom
line in prime time sex would comprise both parties sharing a certain
dose of vitality, yearn, and lust so that sex could turn out to be
pleasurable for the two. Since the name of the game is quality other
Following suit, a few issues likely could disrupt
sexual rapport altogether:
His body changes, undergoes alterations through ageing so too his
sexual lifestyle. Who wouldn’t like to reach forties yet managing
fitness displays of early twenties in bed? His degree of fitness might
not be same any longer, although that’s not a rule. There are men
coming thereabout forties off the beaten track however it doesn’t
mean no longer into sex. A seasoned man is not able to keep a hardon
similar to what he had back in the day. His semen production gets
lowered so does its release pressure. As such, erections might not
last much longer either.
Some times visual stimulation alone does not suffice a man. It would
take more than just visual to get him aroused. What about giving his
penis a god handling? And you could do just that whilst at spiced
The power of stress:
Routine is counterproductive when it comes to sex time. Tackling balance
stricken between work, family, peers, health concerns and sexual life
is rather complicated. In which point sexual appetite interfering
factors as vital ingredients in inhibiting sexual desire. The
women in turn more susceptible to haphazard end up with a drop in
libido. Anyone is bound to get all worked up and freaked out might
as well becoming disconnected, shortfused with sleeping and feeding
Relaxation is a must when putting things on hold
while catching up with the loved one, who is to say, you’re not in
for a reasonable sex life back on track and less shortcomings thereof.
Such claim for patience, reassurance and complicity threshold in much
needed casualness as upheavals is due.
Never mind throttled sex can be detrimental to your
Try and get around routine, maybe a session of mutual
masturbation. Take on some sports. Exercising sets feelgood metabolites
freely warding off further ageing.
Stuck in a rut:
Hardly ever vividness remains per se this long lasting relationships
by and large end up stuck in a rut.
Unfulfilled streaks takes its toll by rendering him withdrawn from
then on even strokes could fail meanwhile he begins placing sex aside
rather than feel ashamed of himself once again. The same applies for
both precocious ejaculation and erectile dysfunctions.
In contrast, possibly stricken by yeast infections
the women might come to feel discomfort or even pain during sexual
intercourse thereby keeping sexual rapport at bay.
In for a hardship? Any decent relationship
is bound to go through dire straits. Rows, fallouts reflect directly
on when it comes to sex. Speaking frankly is needed much as
looking into it further by trying to make ends meet. There would be
nothing like the ol’ bottled up hang-ups, which only tend to make
things worst. “A lifetime worth living comprises ups and downs that
come and go forever”.
By Adriana Sommer da Costa
Psychologist and Sexologist