Do not try to readjust the dial. It pinpoints masturbation, anal
sex and sexuality as subjects at hand. We really are careening down
to where people feel free to discuss masturbation, anal sex and sexuality
as safety measures. Safety and masturbation seemed cut for the job
so should safety procedures for anal sex and masturbation. Can’t we
tell the difference?
When the bottom line is sex, with total disregard to theme, there
are always reasons for troublemaking. In a context as such anal sex
remains one of the most controverter. Perhaps being it the
last bastion, the “last” taboo to be debunked.
It’s certainly harmless to start with, no pregnancy inducing, yet,
as long as performed with special care, in mutual agreement, there
might be pleasurable a way to give an take between homo and hetero
Among men it shares great popularity and there those who claim it
to be their preferable modality. Among women controversy abound.
Some say that enjoy it and that it’s their preferable modality. Others
call it painful, uncomfortable, by relishing on it discreetly- only
just pleasing a partner, or simply discarding it altogether. There
is whoever rates it “disgusting” reveling their beliefs and cultural
Hence its name, stands for done in the anus, so then, what about
getting on top of that?
Before getting started takes good local hygienize, after all the
rectal mucosa and the rectum final portion of the digestive tract,
through where flush the feces, are contaminated places, mainly, by
bacteria that may provoke infections, as well as a string of sexually
transmitted disease besides AIDS and B Hepatitis. Therefore
wearing condoms is compulsory.
The rectum linen is highly sensitive, less so lubricated than the
vagina. It goes without saying that the anal dilatation is narrower
than the vaginal-one. Apllying lubes it’s essential, do not go cheap
on yourself, for the relation to keep semblance of more pleasant,
within bearable or not a hint of pain.
Pain during anal relation shares same causes of the vagina- lack
of lubrication and high tension build up rate. Hence the fears of
pain, uncertainty whether undergoing or not, being at unease with
sex partner or unwilling to carry on are factors that hamper so-needed
relaxation of a relationship in for barely sexual pleasure.
The anal duct is quite short approximately 3cm. As of bearing certain
essential attributes to the intestinal functioning it features two
sphincters, being one internal-of involuntary control, and one external
– of voluntary control. Experts argue that the sphincter is easier
and the first to relax. In contrast, the internal-one requires longer
period to relax hence the time it takes to relax before gearing into
whole penetration, whether with a penis, dildos, vibrators or butt
plugs. According to field specialists when the internal sphincter
is not fully relax the anus may suffer a reflex contraction during
penetration resulting in rather painful onset.
The manner as of how someone perceives his sexuality and that includes
the line of perception regarding sex, should by all means be respected.
His values pertain to his apprentice. So if she/he regards anal sex
as a sin, or dirty, a sex partner must respect such creed.
So far in anal sex indulgence certain rules exist that should not
go overboard in that condom, loads of lube, extra care taken and above
all plenty of tenderness.
By Kelly Cristine Barbosa Cherulli
Psychologist and Sexologist